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A week ago today two lives changed drastically. Two people that had lived on their own for many years and many miles apart had reconnected and decided to be together.  Larry is a man I had loved from afar many years ago, but it was just the wrong time in our lives for me to make my feelings known or pursuit a relationship with him – at least not the kind of relationship I was looking for with him.

Through Facebook I found him, early in 2017, in Long Beach, California – a very long way from northern Illinois.  A relationship was formed, along with a week spent together in Rockford last fall and a decision to be together was made.  A week ago he arrived in Rockford, Illinois and the adventure began.

I am please to tell you that the first week has gone much smoother than I had imagined.  I am not used to having to shut the bathroom door.  Larry is not used to having any kind of a regime or schedule. The biggest obstacle became the television. He watches anything BUT network shows. Other than the Hallmark channel, I watch network shows.  Three days ago a 40″ television and headphones were delivered!! Whatta guy! On my dining room table that used to be staged very pretty, there is now a tv room/recording studio/computer room and my office. Did I mention we are moving April 1st into a two bedroom? Second bedroom will be storage/recording studio and crafting room.

Through it all we have managed to keep our sense of humor and for those people that have asked me if I was on cloud 9………I am on cloud 909.  To have the senior version of the life I had dreamed of with Larry, well for me it is a blessing. God truly has blessed me with this relationship. I love him a little bit more each day and can’t imagine my life without him.

Before I leave you for today, I must tell you about yesterday’s cooking mishap.  I had decided to make some of my homemade chicken pot pies for the freezer.  I make six at a time and had them all finished and they looked beautiful in their freezing tins. I no more than shut the freezer door and started to clean up the kitchen and I saw sitting on the counter the chopped up chicken.  I had made the pies and forgot to put the chicken in them!! Vegetables yes – chicken no!  So I had to carefully get the pie crust off the tops and stir in the chicken and put the top crust back on.  They aren’t quite as pretty as they were but at least there will be chicken in the chicken pot pies!

Until next time…….still on cloud 909 and loving it!





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December 16th I left my condo and moved into a senior retirement facility. It is a lovely facility and I have to admit, I feel safer here.

Today is February 24th and I just put away, or hid the last bit of “stuff” that I moved. This is fair warning should you come to this apartment……don’t open a closet door, look under the table and bed, or peek under any quilts that have suddenly appeared. If you do……it is at your own risk! Things may jump or fall on you and as far as I know there is no insurance that covers  being attacked by “stuff” or hospitalization due to “stuff” stampede.

I learned something with this move……..when moving with the help of friends with cars and pickup trucks, I probably would never pack in boxes or plastic bins ever again.  I packed most of my kitchen in Walmart’s blue shopping bags. Even using bubble-wrap for the breakables, I could put a lot in each bag. I easily carry four-six of them at a time and stuff many more of them into my car versus a few boxes.  Carrying one box or one bin was hard on the back, arms and shoulders versus having my arms and hands down at my sides carrying the bags. If I were to do it again I would buy Walmart out of bags to move.  Now I know a professional mover will not allow that. They want boxes or bins……but they have the hand carts and equipment to move a bunch at one time.

On February 28th Bella and I will be adding to our family, as my love is moving in with us.  I don’t think he truly realizes  that basically I have gone from a two bedroom condo into a large closet. You will have to stay tuned to this blog and follow our adventures.  Both of us have lived alone a very long time. That in itself will be an adjustment or two or three.  Then there is the age-old question of what to do with his “stuff”. I have heard rumors that we will be renting storage until we can get into a two bedroom apartment here. We will be using the 2nd bedroom for nothing but a big closet/storage room.  Please follow our adventures and know that on February 28th, I will be the happiest woman ever.


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It is Thanksgiving morning and as I woke up, I took a moment to ponder what it is I am thankful for this year.  One of the things very close to the top of my list, if not the top, is the  squamous cell cancer episode I had this summer.  It was discovered early and eliminated without Chemo and/or Radiation and only minimal disfiguring to my lover lip and chin. Everyday when I look into the mirror and I say thank you God.  But included with that is the dear girlfriend  who went with me and held my hand through every surgery. Also to all of the friends who knew how really terrified I was and offered support through the three plus months ordeal.  I am blessed.

I am also thankful for my little dog Bella. She just turned twelve years old and from here on each day with her is a gift and a blessing.  It is really a myth that little dogs live longer. I had one Yorkie live to be 16 years old, and that is not the normal. My last one lived to be just short of twelve years.  She gives so much love and asks so little in return.  Again, I am blessed.

Now last but not least…….how many of you believe that things really do happen for a reason? I may not have liked it at the time or even understood it, but I really do believe that there is a reason for everything. “To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven.” 

Quite sometime ago as a young gal of 19 or 20, my path crossed with a young musician. But it was not meant to be as he was headed on a new adventure with his band and I was getting ready to move to Atlanta. Our goals and dreams I figured were too different and even though I didn’t want to hear it…….it was not meant to be.  Forty-eight years later we reconnected on Facebook.  Through daily communications and perseverance, we were able to spend sometime together eleven months later. You see this wasn’t easy as we live about 1,800 miles apart.

With all this time that has passed, he is still everything I thought he was and more. Yes L.M. I am so thankful that our paths have crossed again and thankful we both kept our minds and hearts open to this new adventure. I do not know of any two people that are more meant to have a second chance.   I am excited to see where 2018 takes us.

So, what are you thankful for this year? Don’t let the day go by without finding something or someone to be thankful for.  If it is someone, I suggest you tell them today. Tomorrow is not promised to any of us. Let them know that you are thankful they are in your life.

That’s all for now.  Have a Happy Thanksgiving everyone.

Until next time………..


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July 26, 2017 I lost a dear, dear long-time friend, to Alzheimers Disease. If someone asked me to describe my friend Bob Louis in one word, I couldn’t do it. Bob was a class act, a gentleman and a gentle man. His heart was as big as Texas, a warm sense of humor and a wonderful family man. His children Bobby, Marc and Joe were the center of his universe. He raised them with the good values he himself possessed and most of all to be each their own man, and not to walk in his or anyone else’s shadow.  They were each bigger than life on their own and he was so proud of them.  I met them young in their lives and was fortunate to catch up with two of them because of this sad loss we are sharing. They have grown into fine men.

The first born of  the sons is Bobby.  He literally walked out of his own life in Florida, as a musician and singer with his own band, to move home and care for his dad.  I know what this kind of sacrifice is because I too was the adult child who gave up their life to care for  my mom and dad.  It is a commitment and it is a sacrifice, no matter how you look at it.  Having been associated with our local hospice for 14 years, I tried without butting in too much, to offer suggestions to help him either with the caring of his dad or his feelings and/or emotions that he was dealing with.  I have worked with many many families dealing with a terminally ill loved one.  The things that Bobby was saying to me, I have heard many times before. I hope he knows that had I not cared deeply for his dad and his sons, I wouldn’t have ever said a word or offered support unsolicited, but I did care and even if it was from another state via internet I wanted him to know I was there to help or listen.


I started writing this a week after my friend Bob passed away.  Normally I write my blog posts in one sitting, but this one was extra special and in it’s own way closure for me, so I wanted to take my time.  Now I am grateful I did write this story and not publish it too soon………….

It is now August 15th.  Sunday August 13th Bobby and 6 others were on a wooden boat in Lake Superior. The purpose of this excursion was to honor his dad’s final wishes and scatter his ashes in a lake that their family had spent many vacations filled with fun and memories. The boat capsized, leaving all of them in the very frigid Lake Superior water.  It was Bobby who helped to keep the other six treading water, including a seven year old child, until a good Samaritan  happened along to rescue them. Before this, Bobby tried to stop the wooden boat that was reportedly still on full throttle even though upside down.  It is not known as of this writing if Bobby was hit by the propeller on the motor or what exactly happened, but he went down under water, never to resurface.    Bobby’s body wasn’t recovered until Monday, August 14th, late afternoon.  Another wonderful human being was lost to us that day.

Bobby had a kind, loving heart like his dad’s.    I don’t think either one of them was capable of hatred or hurt towards any human being or animal.  Bobby started a Facebook page called Angels for Angels, encouraging anyone who was in need of prayer to let it be known on that page and all who were there would include them in their prayers.  Bobby studied theology and believed strongly in the power of prayer.

Someone once told me that I can’t write a story unless I have an ending.  I never dreamed this story would have this ending.  Bobby…….thank you for your friendship the last couple of years.  I remember that day you told me your dad had Alzheimers. I suspected it because of the last couple of phone calls I had from him – one of which I will hold in my heart forever.  Thank you for keeping me always up to date on what was happening with my dear friend Bob.  I was looking so forward to seeing you when you came to have the memorial service here in Rockford for Bob, later this Fall.

Although we who loved you both did not want to give you up so soon – it was heaven’s gain and our loss. The two brightest stars in the sky belong to the two of you now and that will always give me a smile and a warm, fuzzy feeling.  Until we meet again someday…………





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Is it worth it????

In 2016 we had a National election to elect a new President. I am not going to dwell on the fact that our choices were less than the best. There are people who walked into the voting booth and closed their eyes and whomever they pointed to, got the vote.  People changed party affiliations as well as there have been on going protests, flag burning, name calling,  and in general ……plain ol’ unhappiness.  I was always taught that to burn our flag in protest was treason.  People used to face a firing squad for treason. How times have changed!

All of this aside……what is really disturbing to me is that people are losing friends over their beliefs.  Facebook used to be a fun place.  I love my family and friends on face book.  Reconnecting with so many people and also making new connections is something I  am really enjoying and look forward to.  I certainly respect your right to your beliefs regarding politics and religion…….as I hope you respect mine.  Most of all, I certainly do not or will not engage in ANY heated discussion on Facebook with you about it. It is a no win situation.

You have a right to what you think and believe and so do I.  It boils down to this……..the election is OVER. No matter what side you are on, we have a new leader.  GIVE THE MAN A CHANCE!!!! If it were Hillary Clinton I would say the same thing – give her a chance.  We have given every President elected, good or bad, a chance to prove themselves.  Mistakes will be made. They have all made mistakes.

Is it worth it to lose a life-long friend because you can’t come to agreement on something that neither of you can change?  Remember, words hurt and can’t be taken back.  Once said and there is no turning back…….feelings are hurt and in some cases there might be a friendship gone bad.  John Lennon said it so well back in the ’60s…….”all we are saying, is give peace a chance.”  Let’s make Facebook fun again. I respect your right to tell me to write my Congressman about something….and I probably will do it if I agree, but let’s get over it and get on with life and keep the arguments off of Facebook.  This is not directed to any one person, because there are many doing it. It is strictly my thoughts on the subject.

And with that I will leave you with a big ((((((hug)))))) until next time………



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Did You Hear It?

Were you listening?  Did you hear it? I can’t describe it to you……it was just there.  I know that when I discovered it, I surely enjoyed it.  What am I talking about?

For the last nine days this country had something else to think about, cheer about, and celebrate other than Hillary or The Donald.  There was camaraderie like there hasn’t been in years with the people of this country.  Two baseball teams,  wanting to  not repeat history, were in a battle for a “winner take all ” prize.  We had something else to focus on and it sure felt good!

Game seven, the final game it felt like the earth stood still.  People were riveted to their televisions.  We laughed, we cheered, some cried.  No matter which team you were for, you woke up this morning with a smile on your face and a pride in your heart. For this short period of time these two teams let us escape from our problems and seemed to make life a little more fun. It has been a very long time since this country has had something like this to bond us.  This wasn’t just any World Series, this was two teams that had been the underdogs for years. People could relate to this.  Some people gave up on these two teams.  But now, win or lose…….these teams were going to sprout wings and fly.

Thank you Cubs and Indians for giving us a much needed break in our lives.  Thank you for the joy you brought to all ages and the fun you gave us. My Dad is smiling up in Heaven knowing the Cubs finally won the World Series and I am smiling for him.

For a few short hours last night………well……. it seemed like there was peace on earth.  Did you hear it? I sure hope so.

Until next time……..


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While reflecting on the real reason we are celebrating with a three-day weekend, I remembered some pretty incredible Yorkshire Terriers (Yorkies) who participated in the wars.

One such Yorkie who was called Smokey, served two years active duty in the Asiatic and Pacific in WW2. She was found in a foxhole when she was a little over a year old.  Even though the war was  scary place for Smokey,she lived through 150 air raids and was a crew member on 12 air-sea rescues and never got motion sickness.  Her true service came when she was asked to take a wire through a seventh foot long pipe that was under an airstrip. Her owner Bill, knew in his heart, that she could do it. She was smart and definitely the right size as the pipe was only eight inches high. However the pipe had mold in it and in some places mud partially closed the pipe to about four inches.  Both Bill and Smokey were a little more than apprehensive.

As a trial run, Bill tied a string to her and pointed her into the pipe. He then went to the other end and called out for her to come.  Smokey headed through the pipe only to have the string get hung up once, but then was able to release it to keep going.  Finally Bill saw the gleam of her eyes and called her name and she ran the last 15 feet.

Smokey ate C-rations and took vitamins. Bill’s helmet was her bathtub. She traveled over 40,000 miles in her lifetime and lived a full and rewarding life with her best friend Bill.

My dad was stationed in France for part of his tour and he used to tell me that the French army used Yorkies to deliver messages.

Yes the Yorkie is not just another pretty face or fluffy lap dog.  They have the heart of a lion and the soul of a wolf!  Both my Chloe and Bella gave years of service visiting hospice patients and their families.  To quote my favorite commercial:

“You’re my buddy, my pal, my friend ……..and we’ll be that way til the end.  Wherever we go I want you to know………you’re my buddy, my pal, my friend.”

Have a happy and safe Memorial Day weekend – remembering those those who have fought to protect us so that we can enjoy the freedoms that we have and those who made the ultimate sacrifice by giving their life for it all .

Until next time……..

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